The Fantasy of Being Ravished

50 shadesAs with many of my recent articles, the idea for this one came through a twitter conversation with Illimitableman about the nature of female fantasies. Specifically those involving “The Desire to Be Ravaged” and the observation that rape seems to punch above its weight in terms of media attention, with a new article appearing every day. Yet, the best-selling series of female porn in recent memory, “50 Shades of Grey” features coercion on a level that would qualify as rape by most modern standards. Despite “50 Shades of Grey” depicting what many modern journalists and activists would outline as rape, abusive and coercive, it sold 70 million copies in the U.S alone, has been translated into 50 languages, and outsold Harry Potter as the fastest selling paperback. This caused me to look into the “Bodice Ripper” genre [4] of “romance novels” to see if there was a pattern to them that gives insight into why such stories hold such an appeal.

You may know a man through his choices of vice and his imagination. If one were to dig into the production and distribution of male sexual fantasies in the pornographic industry, it becomes quite clear what many men fantasize about. One could by analyzing this develop a framework, to the end of determining the nature of male desire. Pornographic movies made for men, are often focused on an absence of foreplay, the women are ready to go and to engage in any act the man desires. It is often a non-emotional encounter, where one expects little would take place in the aftermath other than potential booty calls. In a funny sense, it is a safe space where the man can openly embrace his sexuality and sexual desires free of the normal psychological and social barriers.

Assuming that the female variant of pornography, romance novels follows a similar patterns, I selected to explore the seedy world of best selling romance novels in the “Bodice Ripper” genre. For those who are unfamiliar with the genre, it normally features a heroine, who despite being very beautiful is also quite naive when it comes to carnal pleasure. Often she has been betrothed by her father or male guardian, to a classic Beta male provider archetype quite a few years her senior, in what has been deemed an appropriate marriage. She then meets the alpha male, often in the form of a rogue of some variety who is the opposite archetype of the Beta provider. While highly attracted to the rogue, she faces a conflict between her ego, super ego and ID.  Her super-ego is offended that such a brute would behave the way he does, yet her ID is on fire with desire. Over time her ego seeks to mediate the two, rationalizing that her Beta fiance is a safe future and would make a good husband and father by social standards, yet she cannot forget the rogue. Finally, they find themselves alone and he overpowers her and familiarizes her with a world of carnal pleasure unlike no other. Continue reading

Constructing a Great Media Narrative

story structureThe media has been called the fourth power, because of the role it holds as the source of information for a majority of people. A potential fifth column is the internet, social media, public opinion or others, however the distinctions between the various powers are slowly being eradicated. It is fairly obvious from a political perspective that having the media on your side will benefit you greatly. From the paid media, it is also obvious that the more “customer oriented” they become, the higher their traffic and thus their earnings. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Principal and Agent

cartoon conflict of interestRecently I had a twitter conversation where I made the statement that the women in your family are your biggest enemy when it comes to sexual market place success. The reasoning behind this is that females, while inherently seeing the value of an alpha, fail to raise their sons in this manner, instead opting to build a good Beta for their daughter in law. This comes from what can be argued as a principal agent issue, wherein your best interests are not those of your female family members and friends. However, in many cases, men view advice and counsel from family as if it can only be in the best interest of the man. This is rarely the case due to multiple mechanisms in the female psyche.

Family are your genetic heritage, the best way to ensure the survival of your family lineage of genetics is to reproduce and ensure that the other members of your family are best suited to reproduce. This is why male role-models become so important, as men teach other men how to perform and win in the sexual marketplace. If Jack Nicholson was your dad, you would be taught how to slay pussy, if your dad was a male feminist chump, your best bet is to supplicate, become a male feminist like your dad and go down that route, because your male feminist dad will teach you how to do just that. Men who are raised with strong masculine male role models learn the traditional masculine behaviors and attitudes. Concepts such as “boys don’t cry” do not exist because men are not permitted to show emotions or to be in pain, but because men do not let pain prevent them from accomplishing what they set out to do. Secondly, they exist because the nature of a man is to be stoic out of necessity. To balance the genders women are overly emotional and men are somewhat under-emotional. If both parties become emotional during a crisis, that is as close to guaranteed death as possible.

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The Red Pill and Morality

lady justiceLast week I was a party to a conversation on Twitter, regarding the morality of The Red Pill, and whether or not engaging in the methods prescribed by the Red Pill was immoral. The author of the linked reddit post describes the behaviors as emotional abuse and manipulative.

“She does my laundry and dishes, we have sex whenever I want, and she knows that I don’t belong to her, and if she ever slips up or takes me for granted, she’s gone.”
It’s not that I doubt what he’s saying. I believe it. The problem is, what he’s describing is emotional abuse. What the Red Pill advocates is taking advantage of common weak points in the typical female psyche (most of which are present in your typical male psyche as well; everyone has weak points, and most of them are common to all humans, though some are more pronounced in one sex or another) to put pressure on women and bend them to your will. [1]
In this case, the male has a frame in his relationship, which requires a few things from the female in question. Namely, give him priority in her life, do not act possessive, do not throw drama his way, and do things for him. However, is this really so different from the stereotypical blue pill relationship, wherein a woman will demand that her man puts her first, will limit when and who he can hang out with and demand that he invests his resources according to her preferences? Much of my irritation with “Anti-Red Pill” people, is that if a woman posted a similar story. “He mows my lawn, repairs stuff around my house, always puts me first and buys me stuff all the time”, nobody would have a problem with it, the only reason a problem emerges here is that men are fundamentally unable to apply universality and logical consistency to each sex.

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The Freudian Structure and Red Pill.

id ego superego 2I found myself thinking, about the concept of “maximum pleasure, minimum pain” often called the pleasure principle from Freudian psychoanalysis. This is the instinctual seeking of pleasure and avoidance of pain to satisfy biological and/or psychological urges. Which made me wonder if women are happier with an Alpha and date/marry Beta males out of necessity. Leading to both a miserable life for the woman after she gets married (Alpha widow) and a miserable life for the Beta before (and often after) he’s married.

One of Freud’s cardinal concepts is the breakdown of the psyche into ID, Super-Ego and Ego, where the Id represents the instinctual desires, the super-ego the rules and socialization from our parents/community and the Ego the moderating influence between the two. To create archetypes of the three, one could cast the ID as the ultimate hedonist, strictly following the pleasure principle. The ID has little patience for putting off gratification, little capacity for long-term productive behavior and offers no thought for the future. The Super-Ego is the ultimate authoritarian, seeking to shape and maintain a person as a “Good person” according to the society in which he lives. The Ego is the self, the one who moderates the unbridled hedonist and the rule-bound authoritarian. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The male sexual strategies

The RoninIn our early days as a species on this earth, it is likely that we largely mimicked our cousins, the other primates in our approach to mating. Might makes right without the rule of law, and therefore the first sexual strategy that evolved was the physical one. In a world that consists largely of physical trials such as hunting, it follows that evolution would select for those who had the best genetics for this life. To explore this, I decided to see what the status is among our primate cousins who are living in a much more natural state than humans. While humans have come a long way from our hunter-gatherer past, through the agricultural revolution, our mating behavior is most likely less adapted.

The three closest relatives to humans genetically speaking are Chimpanzees, Bonobos and Gorillas. In Chimpanzee society, there are two dominance hierarchies, one among males, and one among females. The male hierarchy is controlled by an alpha male, and the alpha may be the most physically dominant, but may also be the one most skilled in manipulation and gaining allies. Males gain mating opportunities through status, females gain access to resources. Females will on occasion collude to remove an alpha male in favor of a new one if they perceive that it will benefit them. [1]

Bonobos appear to be a matriarchal society, where everyone has sexual contact with everyone except mother and son. A son gains his social status from his mother. Quite unique to bonobos, females will engage in sex with many males indiscriminate of social rank or age. This results in a situation where no male can know which offspring is his and parental care rests solely on the female. [2]

Gorillas live together in groups called troops, presided over by an Alpha male Silverback (over 12 years old), and often consists of a Silverback, multiple females and the offspring. On occasion groups with multiple males can exist, where the Silverback is the Alpha and the other males are younger and serve as support for the Silverback. The troops form in order for the females to gain protection and mating opportunities. [3] Continue reading

MBTI & Psychological types

judging perceivingThis post will discuss some of the more intermediate and advanced parts of MBTI, so for those who are not familiar with the system, I recommend visiting the MBTI Foundation and reading their basics first.

Myers-Briggs personality typing is based on the work of Carl Gustav Jung, and is one of the main systems for personality types being used in corporate environment the other two major options being D.I.S.C and Big 5. As an empiricist, my major contention with MBTI is that it does not stand up very well to scientific rigor, people often score different types upon being tested again and various other issues [1]. However, as a probabilistic heuristic it serves a different purpose, the goal is not that it is repeatable the goal is that it works for the purpose you are employing it. Continue reading

Of rational and rationalizing actors

rationalization hamsterA central foundation of economics as a field is the rational actor. Homo Econonomicus as it is called is an abstraction that makes much of economic theory possible, through the assumption that humans logically weigh options, utilizing concepts such as marginal utility, taking into account sunk costs and opportunity costs, and countless other principles that together construct the theoretical framework of economics. The homo economicus has no preferences, no bias, make no flaws in their logic and has perfect information. The interesting part of this is that marketing (a sub-field of economics) and economics are at odds, because if humans truly were rational actors, then marketing should have little value outside of being the source of the perfect information. However, if we take a look at marketing, it becomes clear that in marketing informing is a means to an end, the end being persuasion and influence. The model used in economics is one of needs and wants, where a need is a biological urge that needs to be sated and a want is the preferred manner in sating that urge. For instance, thirst is a need, preferring green tea is a want. If the human in question was a rational actor, the way to make such a decision was to weigh all the drink choices, and then make a choice based on the relative merits of each beverage option. These merits could include such categories as flavor preferences, health benefits, health detriments and so on, and thereafter a choice could be made. Continue reading

Of means and ends

Immanuel_Kant_(painted_portrait)I often use the terms “means” and “ends” in my writing, this is a concept that I borrowed from a formulation of the categorical imperative by Immanuel Kant, which is as follows:

Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end.” Immanuel Kant (Grounding for the Metaphysics of Morals)

In Kant’s formulation, he is stating that in order to treat people in a humane and ethical manner, you must view the interaction with their person as a goal in itself, not merely as a method to achieve a goal. I touched on this in my post on means, motive and opportunity, which is a breakdown of the three different concepts and these are complimentary and overlapping principles. Means is the equivalent in both cases, and the result of the combination of means, motive and opportunity results in the end. You can never have an end without a method to achieve that end, a motivation for achieving that end and the opportunity to pursue that end. However, a major stumbling block many people face is that they become preoccupied with creating means, without taking the opportunity when it presents itself.

“I will go for that promotion once I have another year of experience and finish my night classes”

“I will go after this women I’m lusting after once I read another 4 books on game”

“I will renew my wardrobe once I lose another 15 lbs”

In all the above scenarios the person is putting off action, and taking risks under the guise of “not being ready” in essence they are creating creating a situation whereby failing to achieve one goal, will result in failing another goal as well. Put in another way, they are telling themselves “I will neglect to take opportunities presented to me until I have achieved another end“. I’m a major proponent of sequential-tasking and parallel tasking, however, if you line up your life as a series of milestones, with hard dependencies, you will not be capable of achieving maximum results in a time-frame. Continue reading