I’ve scarcely shared my history on here for good reason, when I began writing Black Label Logic, I wanted it to be as absent of Ethos and Pathos as possible, as my goal was (and still is) to remain as objective, rational and empirical as possible in my writing. Constant utilization of ethos and pathos would make this blog about me, not about the message. While I have shared statistics from my own life a couple of times, such as The Tinder Experiment, or on my twitter feed in the thread where I shared my Tinder Statistics from the last 30 days, I would say that for the most part I’ve been able to stay within the bounds of pure and practical reason.
This has been a major goal of mine because quite frankly the world of intersexual dynamics, dating, romance, and sex is filled with people who fling their opinions at the wall, hoping something will stick all the while purporting to be “empirical and logical”.
Permit me to draw a distinction first, I once dated a psychiatrist who was fond of saying “Schizophrenics are very logical“, at first she did it to tease me, but after spending some time talking to some patients in deep psychosis, I realized that if I bought into their delusion as a first principle, for instance accepting that the KGB has them as a target, that they were born Napoleon Bonaparte or that astrology is real, then everything from that faulty premise is perfectly internally logically consistent.
In a sense that is what I’ve made a large part of my writing about here on Black Label Logic, the use of statistics to take a field that is largely internally logically consistent and reality test the basic premises by way of using statistics. A second major part has been taking those premises and extrapolating from them using economic models in a “If we assume X to be true, this would conform to Y model, which we could observe in Z variable“.
For instance, if Hypergamy is true in that that there is a dual strategy, prioritized differently based product and market conditions, where one outcome (alpha fucks) is prioritized over the other (beta bucks), then one should be able to observe this through variables such as average age of marriage and number of sexual partners. Average age of marriage because one desires to remain on the market as long as possible in the hopes of a better deal, and number of sexual partners due to trading up being more socially accepted, and we see just that.
However, in order to do such writing, is must understand how things are defined, in the name of this essay, how does one draw the distinction?
What is a Good Girl?
If one things of a set “Girls”, it has two sub-sets “Good Girls” and “Bad Girls”, these two sets share many variables, after all they are both children of the set “Girls”, so they probably shares most of their variables. However, in the interest of clarity let us begin.
We’ll start with the simplest of questions, what are the empirical variables one can use to discern which sub-set a a girl belongs to?
Can we use notch count, meaning the number of men she has slept with? According to my data in “The Chalice and The Crucible” 55% of women in the UK ages 25 – 34 have had more than 5 partners, with 35% of them having had more than 10, is anyone with less than 7.5 partners a “Good girl”, she did sleep with 7 men and gave one man a blow job, but she didn’t have as many partners as the 10+ girls that made up 35%. Then again, 45% of women in the UK ages 25 – 34 have had less than 5, so by that metric the 7.5% girl is a bit on the bad side isn’t she? However, what does that make the ones in the top category with more than 20 partners, how about those with over 30 or 40?
Perhaps we could do it by sex act engaged or positions used, so missionary only means a real good girl, but if she’s done doggystyle or god forbid woman on top she’s obviously a bad girl because she gets into the sex way too much. However, doesn’t notch count become a factor here? What if she’s only ever done missionary but she’s had 100 partners? What if she pulls the “loophole” so she’s technically a virgin, but she’s had anal sex, or what if she’s never had anal or vaginal sex but she blew like 80 dudes?
Does context matter at all? What if she’s lets say 30, started dating at 15, and has had 15, 1 year long relationships, and thus 15 sex partners but they were all in a committed relationship? Does that make her a bad girl, a girl bad at finding a stable partner, or those 15 men scum for playing her for a year? What if she’s 30, was a virgin until 29, then just hammered out 15 men in a year, or hell what if she banged those 15 when she was 15, then stayed celibate for the next 15 years?
What about non-sex related things, does her political opinions matter? I mean sure, that would make it a bit easier, after all if all good girls are conservative, religious girls that does give us something to go on, but how conservative? Are we talking slightly left of center family values conservatives, or “privatize the army” conservative? How religious? are we talking attends Church a couple of days a month or prays 5 times a week and went on a 12 month pilgrimage religious?
This might seem odd that I’m asking all these questions, but I’m seriously trying to understand what makes a girl good and what makes a girl bad. What makes a woman, a quality woman? After all, if such a thing as a quality woman exists, that by implication means that such a thing as a “low quality woman” exists. What makes the difference between a Whole Foods woman and a Wal-Mart woman? Is it that the low quality woman was made in China and has traces of lead? At least that would be measurable. Is it that the Whole Foods woman comes with a side of kale and smells like $45 Avocado toast?
What if a girl has 2 kids by 2 different men and is raising them as a single mom, as a souvenir from the days when she was a groupie for ZZ-Top and travelled with the band in a drug-laced haze back and forth across the continent but she’s now found god, discovered that bras exist and learned how to make tea without burning the water, is she a quality woman or just a Bad girl gone good?
Summary and Conclusions
For those of you who made it this far and are sitting there, scratching your heads, wondering what I ended up drinking last night and what the fuck happened, here is the explanation. If you go back to the beginning of this essay, I put forth the following:
I once dated a psychiatrist who was fond of saying “Schizophrenics are very logical”, at first she did it to tease me, but after spending some time talking to some patients in deep psychosis, I realized that if I bought into their delusion as a first principle, for instance accepting that the KGB has them as a target, that they were born Napoleon Bonaparte or that astrology is real, then everything from that faulty premise is perfectly internally logically consistent.
What I meant to point out with this anecdote was that it’s very easy to build a subjective trap, that once you fall into it, it’s very hard to get out. Anyone who has dated a BPD woman knows that the tangled webs they weave, have a way of drawing you into their version of reality which replaces actual reality. In game there is a similar concept named “The Adventure Bubble” which is an alternate reality that you draw a girl into as part of the seduction process. Within the bubble you need to maintain suspension of disbelief so you don’t break the illusion, but you can play more or less any game you want.
The way you break the adventure bubble is to introduce reality, much like the way you end a BPD illusion is hitting rock bottom during a discard phase. The way you end illusions is to require empirical data and metrics.
So this is my challenge, and the challenge you should present to anyone who uses the “Good Girl” vs. “Bad Girl” dichotomy, the “Quality woman” vs. “Low-quality woman”: Define by an empirical, quantitative metric what makes a girl a “bad girl” or a “low quality woman”.
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