Of Criticisms, Complaints and The Red Pill

I normally do not make it a habit to address various Twitter and other forum beef in long-form essays, for the most part I attempt to keep the blog separate from other forums, except for sharing content. However, I find that there are a few complaints and a bit of criticism that is often launched on other forums that I feel should be dealt with on here.

Now, before I go into that, if you are a Gendernomics or Gendernomics: Building Value owner, I welcome all feedback on the books and my twitter DMs are open, specifically as customers, I want to hear and appreciate your feedback. Continue reading

Of Clubhouses and Civilians

One of the phrases I’ve coined in my time back in this space was “A spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down, but for a man to take the red pill requires a kick in the balls” , I’m sure a lot of people just assumed this was a funny turn-of-phrase to highlight how difficult it is to get a man to take the red pill, however the serious meaning behind it, is that The Red Pill has a very narrow market appeal. Game, Pick-up material, work-out advice, style advice, grooming advice, hell even a cooking show for men has a huge broad market appeal. After all, what guy doesn’t want to look good, feel good, get laid and eat well?

However, the “Red Pill lens” is a very hard sell for one simple reason, it requires accepting some very harsh truths about men, about women, about intersexual dynamics and about the world at large. In many cases, it requires you to accept that you’ve put years, maybe even decades of effort and resources into investments that never had any value. The right mindset to be willing, and even grateful for the opportunity requires a man who has been pushed to a limit where he is feeling so much pain, frustration and anguish that he is willing to try literally anything to improve. Continue reading

Of Carrots and Sticks

In the last couple of weeks, I’ve received a couple of really interesting reader questions that I think have some synergy. One gentleman spoke of how he as a red pill men can find other red pill men to hang out with, because he finds it very tiring to only hang out with “blue pillers” and secondly, he would like to have a group of men who can support each other on the journey.

The second gentleman asked me a fairly straight forward question of how I manage to both work in corporate and be red pilled. The implicit idea being that as a red pill man you have to employ law 38

“Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like others” Robert Greene

The reason why I view these questions as having much synergy, in that they are both reflective of the same desire, in the case of the former question, being able to be surrounded by men who share your perspective, have similar goal and act as a tribe, in other words; being included. In the case of the latter, the balance between being your authentic self, while you are surrounded by people who do not share your perspective, and would be likely to exclude you, if you reveal your authentic self.

Inclusion vs. Exclusion, feeling united by a common bond and shared goals vs. feeling alone and frightened in the crowd. Continue reading

An Update on Gendernomics

As many of you are aware, Gendernomics has not been available for purchase for the past 3 – 4 months. I took it down to do a little bit of work on it in preparation for the launch of Gendernomics: Building Value which is the follow up title.

I’m happy to announce that the original Gendernomics and Gendernomics: Building Value will be available again on Amazon.com, hopefully next week.

There haven’t been many changes to Gendernomics, just fixing a few issues with the previous version, however both books will be featuring new cover art by Rian Stone.

For those of you who are interested in what Book 2 is about a gentleman by the name of Jack Napier was kind enough to do a preview for me on youtube where he reads the introduction to Gendernomics: Building Value

 

He is very talented when it comes to doing audio and I’m grateful that he took the time to create the above clip.

Gendernomics: Building Value is currently being read by some of the highest profile men in our little corner on the internet and barring feedback that will require a lot of fixes, I should be good to put both books back up by the end of next week.

Best regards

Carl

 

Meta: Game and Manipulation

Ever since I got into game many years ago, I’ve been told that “Game” is manipulating women to have sex with you. When I looked up the term “manipulate” I found two definitions that are both applicable to this context:

  1. control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly or unscrupulously.
  2. handle or control (a tool, mechanism, information, etc.) in a skilful manner.

The former is clearly what the critics of game are referring to with their accusation, and I can understand their perspective. After all Game is a collection of tools that allow men to become more successful in the sexual sphere and in relationships, thus one could easily argue that a man who employs game is not being his genuine self, he is using a framework in order to be a better version of himself or a different person all together. Continue reading

Hypergamy and Looks

I have a lot of respect for Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male, for all the criticisms he has levied at him on a day by day basis, there is very little use in attempting to deny the contributions that he’s made to our collective understanding of female sexual selection. However, on some occasions, I find myself wondering if the sheer volume of legendary essays he’s produced over the past decade contribute to the fact that critics and fans alike, fail to understand some of his more salient points. He’s sheer proclivity and productivity can on occasion make it difficult to grasp the salient points.

Very few places is this more obvious than in discussions of hypergamy and looks. Rollo himself authored two great essays on looks that I would recommend for all men the classic “Looks count” and “Have a look” however Rollo also authored many essays on the concept of Hypergamy, which is a fancy word for saying “Women are looking for the best reproductive deal at all times” (I would link various essays by Rollo on Hypergamy but I only have 2k words to write this essay).

Many men seem to read either both sets of essays or merely one and then make their conclusion “Looks do no matter, I’ll get fat, dress like shit and skip my shower” or “Looks are everything, if I was born 5 ft 8 and with red hair I’m fucked”, neither of these are correct.

Just for the sake of proving once and for all that the red pill is not a cult, I will point out that I disagree with Rollo’s quote from “Looks count”

“Your bulletproof Game and charming personality wont make you look any better when your shirt comes off.”

In that in my experience, one my shirt comes off, the girl is already naked and there is no going back. However, this is a digression from the main point of this essay. The way I view it, hypergamy is quantitative, “Does this guy measure up?”, “Does he have enough value to be inside me?”, “Is he tall enough for me to ride him?”.

Looks are qualitative, “Is this my preferred way of scratching my itch?”. On a recent Red Man Group episode Jon from Modern Life Dating explicated this in the statements “OMG that guy has a pink jacket I want him to fuck me right now” vs. “OMG that guy has a fucking pink jacket, he has to be gay”. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of thinking that as long as you are high enough SMV, have a strong enough frame, show enough dominance traits and so on, a woman cannot help herself. Women become mesmerized in the presence of high value men. However this is not the case.

Having a high value will grant you more mating opportunities, you get shot down less, you get laid more however you can never hit that 100% hit ratio. If it was merely a qualitative judgment by the women, then it would naturally follow that if you hit high enough value, then all girls would find your irresistible. However, this is a phenomenon in poorly written literotica novels more than a facet of reality.

This is where the qualitative aspect kicks in, some girls like musicians, some girls hate musicians, some girls love men in uniforms, some don’t, and female preference is the difference between a “Hell Yes” girl and a lukewarm prospect. Women do not see men who are lower than them in SMV, a man who is lower than a woman’s self-perceived SMV may as well be invisible. However, women do see men who are at the right SMV level, yet do not quite hit the spot. This is where “He was hot … but …” comes from.

Women have preferences in the same way men have preferences and being “hot enough” is not enough, if the man has a specific preference for a given type of woman. You can be a perfect value for a woman, but not be “her type” and this is the major challenge with developing “bullet-proof” frameworks to help men become successful in the sexual market place.

We can teach you the game, get you lifting, sort out your diet, get rid of those trash shoes and cargo shorts, however we cannot guarantee that the specific look that your particular one-itis is looking for will automatically land you in bed with her.

That’s why I think the Red Pill catch phrase has to be akin to “We cannot get you that girl, but we can get you those girls” because we cannot promise that you will get that one girl you really want, but if you do what we tell you, you will get plenty of other girls for whom you fit their model.

Summary and Conclusions

To summarize in this rather short rant, there are general, quantitative things you can do in order improve your position in the sexual market place. This would be the business equivalent of improving general product quality, service deliverables and so on. Then there are qualitative things that you CAN do in order to improve your results in the sexual market place, which relate to differentiation.

I wear a suit for work every day, some girls love a guy in a suit, some girls view it as the embodiment of male privilege, dominance and surrendering individuality for financial success. You cannot please both 100% of the time, however you can make a cold-read on a girl and estimate which group she falls into. However, if you fake your look for that one date, and she becomes a plate, that requires more work to maintain.

Thus, the point of this rant, is that even if you dial your sexual market value to 11, you cannot get every girl. Women have preferences, just as men do and this is what I think a lot of men are confused about.

“If I can make myself a 10, I’ll have every girl I want!”

No man, if you make yourself a 7 with the right look, you can get certain types of girls, if you maximize your SMV to 10, without a look you become the best toilet paper that doesn’t make a girl’s ass sore.

Alpha and the 1%

The longer I write and participate in this space, the more I’ve come to appreciate the definition that Roissy came up with for Alpha years ago, a simple, quantitative, outcome oriented definition [1]. The reason why I’ve come to appreciate this more and more is that it strips away all the unnecessary veneers that men like to add and leaves us with a single question “How attractive is he to women?” because, quite frankly that is all most of us are trying to do, define what women find attractive in men, then help men cultivate those traits in themselves in order to improve their standing in the sexual market place.

This is also the source for most of my irritation with what I tend to deem “trad-cons”, “moralists” or other groups, that unfortunately made their way into this space due to a few manosphere staple authors deciding to launch side-hustles as political pundits. Namely, their muddying of the waters when it comes to alpha. Continue reading