III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority 
The fundamental challenge with this commandment however, is that it presumes that all men have a clear and defined mission in their head that they can make the primary target to aim for in their life. The reality is that many men are like objects in a vacuum, they remain inert until acted upon by an external force. They simply have no idea what their mission is, and some do not even know what having a mission entails. How can one put one’s mission before a woman if one lacks a mission and has a woman? Alternatively, how can one avoid making a woman one’s mission if one lacks a mission?
Some men are born with an innate sense of purpose and know what they desire from an early age, but many do not pay much attention to having a mission, and instead opt to be adrift for years and sometimes decades. In some sense, this can be partly blamed on a social order where men are no longer raised by men, and thus are no longer trained by men to develop that sense of purpose. I’ve known many men who despite great talents and abilities do not live up to their potential.
A few years in my early twenties were spent in such drift, aimless, and without much purpose. However, various life experiences served to radically upend this view of the world. It appears that a man who finds himself adrift may only be awoken from his slumber by significant adversity and challenge. Frequently, the longer he has been in such a slumber, the greater the challenge he must face in order to prove himself worthy of progression. Continue reading