Gendernomics: The Gap Analysis

gap-analysisThis community to which many of us belong, called the manosphere is in many ways the largest self-improvement community on earth. When I first encountered it in the early 2000s, it was known as the seduction community and was uniquely focused on one area of achievement, namely learning the skills to improve relationships with women. When I returned late 2015, I was intrigued to see that it had changed from a community that had a singular focus, to a community that had embraced a much wider mission. Part of the reason why I decided to leave many years ago, was that the community was solely focused on being perceived as a high value male, as opposed to becoming a high value male. While these may appear to be similar, the former is akin to a woman adopting all the modern tricks of the trade to take herself from a 4 to a 7, as opposed to actually putting in the work to be a true seven.

As with most in the sphere, I tend to engage in constant self-improvement with varying intensities, and I’ve found gap analysis to be a very useful tool for both man design and lifestyle design. A gap analysis is a tool that is utilized in business, where the present state is established in detail, for instance based on market share, organizational capabilities or overall strategy. One then identifies the desired future state, so that it is possible to identify the gap between present and desired state, so that action can be taken to reach the desired future state.

Any self-improvement journey starts with a simple “From A to B” however many make detours when enjoying these travels, some embrace the process, others the goal. One can apply a gap analysis to most aspects so long as they can be quantified reasonably well. As management guru Peter Drucker once said “What gets measured gets managed“, I’ve assisted quite a few businesses and men in improvement efforts throughout the years and what is a virtually eternal truth is that the measuring systems are not in place to ensure progress towards the desired end-state and thus the results suffer. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Feminine Frames

fem-frameI came across a couple of articles on The Guardian the other day, that got me thinking about how females approach the sexual market place. I’ve written about how men often approach it from the expectancy and equity perspective, which translates into a play based in reciprocity, where the man engages in actions with the expectation that the female will seek to bring back equity to the relationship through doing nice things for him (reward him with sex). This is the chosen approach that most men tend to default towards unless they find themselves in a community where the red pill mindset is common. In my article on the male sexual strategies I also touched on the fact that the Red Pill SMP for men is in many ways a continuous arms race to be in the top 10 – 20% of males that due to the nature of hypergamy are chased by most, if not all women.

However, apart from the female sexual strategies (Part 1 and Part 2) I hadn’t written much about the female perspective. The two articles I referenced earlier are both on beauty and beauty standards, the first dealing with the concept of the “beauty backlash“, which according to the writer is concerned with actually rejecting the grooming standards that have been socially established for women [1]. The second dealing with the tendency for women to photoshop the photos they share on social media [2].

While the former is clearly a part of the same narrative that most feminist and feminist-adjacent rhetoric centers on, namely to reduce any form of standards or expectations of women to zero, thus “liberating” them from the shackles of having to do anything except what they want, while simultaneously raising the standard of men, in order to secure an alpha (with just enough beta in him) for every woman, the latter is in a sense centered on women imposing standards on other women.

The latter is the far more interesting article, as it demonstrates that in the war for online attention women may live as in article one, but airbrush as in article two.This is the feminine created arms race, wherein women project their own sexual market frame on to men, just as men do when they engage in reciprocity game. The online arms-race among women for social media attention works to drive an arms race in the real world. When men utilize reciprocity frameworks, they are projecting the tendency of men to be deductive problem-solvers that seek to maintain equity in relationships, onto women.

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Red Pill Logic: The Purple Pill

purple-pillWhen I wrote the blue and red pill theoretical framework the goal was to identify the mutual exclusivity of the two frameworks. I deliberately left out the purple pill, as it requires its own essay due to the fact that it appears to contradict the mutual exclusivity that was outlined in the other essay. To define the purple pill, it is a position that seeks to enable a man to have the blue pill fantasy, while remaining red pill. In essence leveraging his red pill knowledge in order to experience the blue pill fantasy.

In a sense, once a man learns red pill knowledge, it is impossible to return to the Matrix without significant dissonance, unlike Cypher, there is simply no way to have your mind wiped clean of all aspects of the red pill. It may be suppressed for a time, or channeled through a defense mechanism or two, but the idealism that is required for a true blue pill fantasy is gone and what remains is merely a hollow shell.

Central to the blue pill fantasy is the idea of there being a “one“, a perfect partner who fulfills your every need. Leaving out the part where perfection is a human conception that has no place in reality, and if it did would at best exist in a moment by moment basis, there is no such thing as a perfect partner. Someone may be a better fit for you than another, in transient moments it may feel as they are perfect but this is an illusion. A man cannot at the same time accept AWALT and view his partner in the manner required for the blue pill.

From my research on the topic, the reasoning behind a purple pill perspective is to attempt a circumnavigation of the principles that are core to the red pill, such s solipsism, hypergamy and “all women are like that“. It is also based in an illusion of control, through which if the husband is red pill enough, he can alter her biological firmware, through constant vigilance. Throughout history, female nature was socially controlled through various means, religion, social shaming and jurisprudence are some of them. For instance, British divorce law from pre-1900 where the husband would automatically gain custody over the children in the event of divorce played on a female being attached to her children to reduce branch swinging, and to police her behavior.

Nathaniel Hawthorne’s “The Scarlet Letter“, demonstrates how social shaming and shunning could be utilized to reduce the tendency for hypergamy, through it having social and financial consequences. The severe biblical punishments for adultery served to further reduce the inherent tendencies of the human female.

The purple pill perspective is therefore, that a man standing alone as long as he is alpha and red pill aware enough can be different from the myriad of other men who were unable to accomplish what an entire society creates incentives against. To make this essay comparable with the other essay, I will go through the purple pill perspective on each point from it. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Frames of reference

frame_of_referenceI recently watched a response video to the widespread “2016 was the worst year ever” tantrum largely by people who’s view of history is shorter the time the iPhone has been in existence, where the content creator ended his video with the statement “No, 2016 is not the worst ever, your frame of reference is“. I had another post planned, but that statement is perhaps more profound than the creator intended when he recorded it.

Frame of reference can be argued as a synonym for “field of knowledge“, which is an expression that is used within academia and is of high importance when designing research projects. In order to avoid duplicating the research that has already been done within a field of knowledge (unless one is doing a verification of previous research), a literature search is conducted to build the foundation for the research. It also serves to anchor the research that is to be done within the field, and to support choices the researcher makes. Continue reading