Red Pill Logic: Gaslighting Narratives

I once made the statement that men are not red pilled through the existence of the red pill, they are red pilled through their own experiences, and are educated in what actually took place by the red pill. The impetus to seek out the literature, videos, and communities that make up the sphere is always a reaction to an observation that contradicts what he has been told. As a social species, our history is full of stories that are used to educate and socialize children, and it’s a common technique to convey information, precisely because of the persuasive and memorable narratives that are tied in with the information.

One of the first things a recent red pill man discovers is that many of the narratives that have shaped his relationships with the opposite sex are at best false and at worst deliberately misleading. Most men are raised with a string of narratives, most fairy tales end with the prince getting his princess and living happily ever after, the supplicating Beta male finally nails his prom-queen, the rule-following, law abiding, dutiful man wins and the alpha, rule-breaking, egocentric man gets his comeuppance. The prevalence of such narratives make perfect sense from a social perspective, after all a society where there is no rule of law, no morality and no code of behavior is bound to rapidly de-evolve into a free for all. However, the danger of widespread narratives is that when they are proven to be false, the ones who espouse them are viewed as less credible.

A child who is informed that his parents have been lying about Santa Claus for years and years is bound to question what else he has been told by his parents that is false information. This is a natural human reflex, when a person proves themselves as untrustworthy, everything they have ever said or done is questioned as a result. If the parents continue to attempt to maintain the lie, and instead question the perceptive abilities of their child, this is what is known as “Gaslighting“. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Backsliding Blues

In the corporate world it’s not uncommon to see companies hire expensive consulting assistance, pay exorbitant sums for common sense, and searching for answers to simple questions. A common feature of such companies is that regardless of the quality of advice they get, they attempt to implement it, often with fanfare, only to find themselves compromising and backsliding within a few months. This is not only detrimental to the employees, management and shareholders but also a gigantic waste of corporate funds. In my latest appearance on the Mark Baxter Podcast, this was a topic that came up for discussion between Mark, Rollo of therationalmale.com and myself.

One can observe that former PUA gurus such as Style and Mystery, along with men such as Tucker Max (Natural Jerkboy) over time have found themselves forgetting the very lessons they sought to instill in men a decade ago, only to embrace the blue pill, and moving into “relationship advice“. As Style aptly points out in “The Game” his journey as a pick-up artist did teach him how to pick up and bed women, but he found himself unlearning much of it to make the relationship with his oneitis work. He also tells the story of Mystery being deep in depression over his inability to make things last with his oneitis of choice.

In a tweet a while back I made the analogy that the red pill is like diet and exercise, the second you stop doing it, you start the backslide to your old self, and this is a phenomena that can be observed in many men who adopt PUA scripts or red pill ideas only to discard them over time when convenient. To some extent this forms the foundation of the purple pill, where the core premise is that if you are only aware enough of red pill principles you can attain the paradise presented by the blue pill illusion. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: The Good Boys

Some men go through life in a very predictable pattern, always seeking validation for their pro-social behavior. Whether it be as children when they follow the directions of parents, teachers, other adults, or when they grow up and adopt the familiar narratives that so many men fall victim to in their journey through life. In my time in academia I saw many of these men, often seeking predictable safe degrees in engineering, business, accounting, that they had been planning to do for most of their life. Their time prior to college had often been spent getting the best grades possible, maximizing their extracurricular activities, keeping up their perfect attendance scores and otherwise maximizing their chances of getting into a “good” college.

A majority of them had a life-plan laid out that went something along the lines of get into a good college, get a solid degree with good grades, intern with one of the top companies available, graduate, get a job with this company, work their way up the corporate ladder, be rewarded with a beautiful sexpot wife, 2.4 kids and a beautiful home. This goal was their motivation and they put their nose to the grindstone every single day to make it a reality. However, as is often the case with plans, in their meeting with reality few if any hold up.

As Mike Tyson once said “Everyone has a plan ’till they get punched in the mouth.”

The trouble that such men often face, is that rather than designing their own path in life, they accepted the various narratives that they had been presented with while growing up and then permitted their super-ego to govern their life, for years if not decades. The “Good Boys” are convinced that there is an inner morality to the world, and that the social narratives present the good way to live, thus if one lives according to the narratives, one will be rewarded for one’s good behavior. This world-view is embodied in the concept of karma, where good things come to good people and bad things happen to bad people. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Dangerous Habits

The past week I had a conversation with a gentleman regarding trouble he’s having sticking with his recently adopted low-carb diet. He explained to me that when he gets stressed his habit is to calm this stress through consuming a few different foods that are “Diet Kryptonite“, meaning that they consist of high levels of both fat and highly processed carbohydrate. As the conversation continued, I dug into his mind using the Socratic method, to ascertain where this habit came from.

This is one of those things that any man focused on improving himself should do every once in a while, sit down, outline habits you perceive as contrary to your goals, or unproductive and determine where they came from. As Scott Adams says, we are biological computers, and we often internalize small fragments of code that end up having massive consequences on how our operating system functions.

When I made my first attempts at self-improvement I failed quite spectacularly, often due to habitual behavior.  Thus, I found myself in the position of engaging in “Self-psycho-analysis” to try and determine the source of some of these habits that I’d ingrained over the years. Furthermore, determining where these habits came from so that I could avoid ingraining new ones that conflicted with my goals.

Seemingly innocuous messages that you received in childhood can stay with you for a long time, and continue to influence your behavior in a negative or positive fashion for decades. Some learn ineffective use of defense mechanisms, others self-sabotage, accept mediocrity, and never challenge themselves to go beyond their comfort zone.

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Red Pill Logic: The Fatal Conceit

In the articles regarding the future of the blue pill illusion and the red and blue pill theoretical framework I describe the present social narrative and perspectives that are part of present constructed reality. I refer to this as constructed reality due to its existence parallel to what can be established through empirical research into biology, in essence it is an attempt to add a veneer of civility and idealism on top of what is ultimately an uncivilized and brutal system. This system is evolution by natural selection and is ultimately a system that only cares about what works, not how moral, politically correct or civilized it is.

Such veneers are quite common on the smaller scale, in fact the blue pill illusion is one such veneer that seeks to cover up the inherent tendencies that exist in the female of the species, and the manner in which our social order has been adapted to cater to the female imperative [1]. Socialism is another, which seeks to harness the view of an idealist as a catalyst to human progress in complete and utter opposition to our inherent nature.

The Red pill seeks to draw back the curtain, and to explain that the social veneer, which obscures a man’s ability to operate in reality, and instead have him operate according to what benefits the venerated groups within the world. However, as with all attempts to conceal or to control nature, it only lasts a short period of time before the dissonance becomes too great between what is experienced or observed, and what one is told. Thus, the authors of red pill blogs and books do not “red pill” men, women red pill men through their behavior, we merely explain what happened.

The present veneer consists of the following points:

A) A belief that humans are instinctless and merely products of their socialization.

B) A rejection of the effects that our biological evolution have had one our species.

C) The rejection of the mind-independent framework that evolved during the Enlightenment as a governance system for human interaction.

D) The belief that one can override the imperatives of natural selection through socialization. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Future of a Blue Pill Illusion

optical-illusions-pointillismI was recently involved in a discussion with a few blue pill acquaintances, that highlighted some of the clear distinctions between a blue pill and a red pill framework. While the red pill can on occasion step into the domain of extremist cynicism, the blue pill in many ways depart from reality in profound ways. This lead me to consult “Future of an Illusion by Sigmund Freud, that deals with the illusions that humanity accept in order to avoid seeing reality.

One of the definitions for “illusion” by Merriam-Webster is:

perception of something objectively existing in such a way as to cause misinterpretation of its actual nature (2) :  hallucination”  [1]

The red pill metaphor that we utilize to illustrate a person’s awakening from the hallucination, aims to draw a distinction between the framework for interpreting reality that most men in the Western World are educated in throughout their childhood as part of socialization and the true nature of reality. In this manner, the term “Red Pill” is often co-opted by other groups, for instance the recent use of the term to signify a person’s awakening to the various narratives within our society that shape our perception of reality. A person has been “red pilled” when they start to question and reject the narrative that seeks to influence and control their behavior. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Normal or Crazy

two-facesIt has previously been argued on this blog that women of a more mentally unstable nature, who often leave a cornucopia of destruction in their wake, are merely extreme versions of their less catastrophic sisters. In a previous essay on “The Methods of Female Madness“, this was summarized as “AWALT on steroids” as the less stable variant of woman manifest the same behaviors, just in a much greater volume and variety. For instance, all women issue congruence tests, the variant lacking in stability merely does so more frequently and at a more extreme level.

The danger in such overlaps between the normal and the abnormal is that a man, recently freed from his blue pill shackles may struggle with determining which variant he is facing, and thus which precautions are necessary. The recently red-pilled man who adopts self-improvement, himself as his mental point of origin, and builds solid boundaries may experience an increase in his success rate with women, however the new behaviors and principles are merely the early beginnings of a new mindset. The blue pill male still remains beneath the surface, ready to jump back out and take over at first opportunity. Change is difficult, remaining the same is easy. Thus, if such a man meets a woman of a more unstable archetype, his behavior may rapidly revert to his old patterns.

A common pattern to the relationships with a damaged woman is over-evaluation, devaluation and discard. This essay follows that same structure outlining the common behaviors of both the damaged and the normal woman, and their differences. As the behavior of a normal woman towards a masculine alpha male largely mimics the behavior of an unstable woman towards her prospective victim, being able to distinguish these from each other can drastically improve the odds of avoiding introducing drama into your life. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: An Essay on Female Understanding

female-mindAbout 10 years ago the axiom “The First Rule of the Red Pill is do not talk about the Red pill” was not really common, so I decided to discuss the various tactics I had utilized on women with them, I repeated this endeavor a few times, not out of the need to be honest, but as a form of research into how that woman had perceived the course of events that lead up the situation that we found ourselves in.

The reaction varied somewhat from woman to woman, one of my favorites was a woman who spent half our first date talking about how game was bullshit, while falling for many of those same gambits. Ever a curious man, I started picking at her assertions and digging into why she thought that game would never work. She became a bit flustered as she attempted to explain her reasoning, and finally she said “They are planning what should be spontaneous and natural. It’s nerdy!”. This was a very interesting observation that I realized years later plays into solipsism, hypergamy and especially “just be yourself“. This is because “Just be yourself” is a tactic to get a man to act in a manner that comes natural to him, something which makes telling an alpha from a beta a much simpler and less risky exercise for women.

One must consider that determining alpha or beta, is a fundamental and very important skill to learn for a female to be able to optimize hypergamy. There is an inherent risk that if a woman eliminates too many alphas, or permit too many betas to enter, she will fail. A woman who does not do a good job at separating the two will tend to either get too few mating opportunities, or she mates too much with men of too low quality, thus the result is an error of optimization.

A second woman talked at length about how the experiences with me were new to her, and questioned why she had reacted to- and perceived my actions in the light that she did. In somewhat of a case of youthful naiveté, I took it upon myself to explain the various gambits and their purpose to her. She listened intently as I explained the role of opinion openers, “chick crack” in the form of games such as “The Cube“, bouncing a woman to a second and third location rapidly to give the impression of 3 dates taking place rather than one, finally the disarming of “anti-slut defense” and Last minute resistance.

After I stopped speaking, we sat there quietly for some time as she processed the information that I had conveyed as if I was lecturing a student, and responded “No, it wasn’t any of those things, it was that you were confident“. This is an example of how woman rationalize their decisions post-hoc, often down to one salient quality, giving them an excuse or a narrative for why they did “the right thing” and cannot be held accountable for their actions. A woman admitting that game works, means admitting that the truths that serve as its foundation are also true. All women are not unique snowflakes as their solipsism tells them. They have virtually no control over what attracts them.

These two experiences, and a few more lead to me concluding that discussing game, and subsequently the game with women is an experience in futility, as it destroys the illusion that every woman wants to maintain; that they are special snowflakes. No woman inherently wants to admit that game works, because game is a singular methodology that has a high general applicability. If the red pill and game works, everything a woman thinks about herself is untrue,  one can easily contrast this with blue pill game, which is centered around ensuring the female of her special nature. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Gap Analysis

gap-analysisThis community to which many of us belong, called the manosphere is in many ways the largest self-improvement community on earth. When I first encountered it in the early 2000s, it was known as the seduction community and was uniquely focused on one area of achievement, namely learning the skills to improve relationships with women. When I returned late 2015, I was intrigued to see that it had changed from a community that had a singular focus, to a community that had embraced a much wider mission. Part of the reason why I decided to leave many years ago, was that the community was solely focused on being perceived as a high value male, as opposed to becoming a high value male. While these may appear to be similar, the former is akin to a woman adopting all the modern tricks of the trade to take herself from a 4 to a 7, as opposed to actually putting in the work to be a true seven.

As with most in the sphere, I tend to engage in constant self-improvement with varying intensities, and I’ve found gap analysis to be a very useful tool for both man design and lifestyle design. A gap analysis is a tool that is utilized in business, where the present state is established in detail, for instance based on market share, organizational capabilities or overall strategy. One then identifies the desired future state, so that it is possible to identify the gap between present and desired state, so that action can be taken to reach the desired future state.

Any self-improvement journey starts with a simple “From A to B” however many make detours when enjoying these travels, some embrace the process, others the goal. One can apply a gap analysis to most aspects so long as they can be quantified reasonably well. As management guru Peter Drucker once said “What gets measured gets managed“, I’ve assisted quite a few businesses and men in improvement efforts throughout the years and what is a virtually eternal truth is that the measuring systems are not in place to ensure progress towards the desired end-state and thus the results suffer. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Feminine Frames

fem-frameI came across a couple of articles on The Guardian the other day, that got me thinking about how females approach the sexual market place. I’ve written about how men often approach it from the expectancy and equity perspective, which translates into a play based in reciprocity, where the man engages in actions with the expectation that the female will seek to bring back equity to the relationship through doing nice things for him (reward him with sex). This is the chosen approach that most men tend to default towards unless they find themselves in a community where the red pill mindset is common. In my article on the male sexual strategies I also touched on the fact that the Red Pill SMP for men is in many ways a continuous arms race to be in the top 10 – 20% of males that due to the nature of hypergamy are chased by most, if not all women.

However, apart from the female sexual strategies (Part 1 and Part 2) I hadn’t written much about the female perspective. The two articles I referenced earlier are both on beauty and beauty standards, the first dealing with the concept of the “beauty backlash“, which according to the writer is concerned with actually rejecting the grooming standards that have been socially established for women [1]. The second dealing with the tendency for women to photoshop the photos they share on social media [2].

While the former is clearly a part of the same narrative that most feminist and feminist-adjacent rhetoric centers on, namely to reduce any form of standards or expectations of women to zero, thus “liberating” them from the shackles of having to do anything except what they want, while simultaneously raising the standard of men, in order to secure an alpha (with just enough beta in him) for every woman, the latter is in a sense centered on women imposing standards on other women.

The latter is the far more interesting article, as it demonstrates that in the war for online attention women may live as in article one, but airbrush as in article two.This is the feminine created arms race, wherein women project their own sexual market frame on to men, just as men do when they engage in reciprocity game. The online arms-race among women for social media attention works to drive an arms race in the real world. When men utilize reciprocity frameworks, they are projecting the tendency of men to be deductive problem-solvers that seek to maintain equity in relationships, onto women.

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