Gendernomics: I’m Not Like Other Girls

This is post two that was inspired from the same thread regarding Emilia Clarke on the red pill reddit [1], the other being dedicated to means of communication. I’ve written much on the concept of differentiation in my posts on female sexual strategy, and I also cover it in the Gendernomics book. Differentiation as a concept can be summarized as “setting yourself apart from the competition” and good differentiation should rely on unique and hard to replicate attributes, thus also contributing to competitive advantage. The two generic strategies often being cited as low-cost, which attempts to compete based on producing a good or service cheaper than the competition, and differentiation, which is based in attempting to set oneself apart from the competition through other means than price.

One thing most men will find themselves hearing at least once from every woman they ever find themselves dating is “I’m not like other girls”, this statement is representative is interesting when seen in light of “Not all women are like that” (NAWALT), in that women themselves appear to be cognizant of how “women are” and seek to actively differentiate themselves from it. Likewise, a blue pill man having found his “soul-mate” is hardly at a loss when asked to explain how she is “not like other girls“.

In the case of the woman, encouraging a perception that she is different from all other women, positions herself as an extremely scarce product. The Beta male through “She is not like other girls” justifies his oneitis through a perception of her as extremely scarce, thus justifying his over-valuation of her. Both of these rely on an unstated axiom about “how women are“, after all how can one be an exception if there is no general rule or principle? Continue reading

The Cult of Crazy Chicks: Part 1

For those of you who are long time readers, you are probably familiar with my writings on various forms of damaged women. I’ve previously covered narcissism, borderline personality disorder, anti-social personality disorder, general methods that they employ to control their victim, in addition to a general post on how prevalent they are within our society and how our western society manufactures crazy women and beta males. This new 4 part series expands on the various details that I outlined in those posts in order to put this into a framework made by cult expert Steven Hassan, referred to as the “BITE” framework [1].

The 4 parts of this framework consist of the methodology that cults use in order to indoctrinate and control their members, and has surprisingly large overlaps with how a personality disordered woman slowly permeates every aspect of her victim’s life in order to gain control. This framework is based on work by psychiatrist Robert Lifton and builds on his book “Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism” [2], the research behind this book being focused on American servicemen who had been prisoners of war during the Korean War, as well as people who had been prisoners in China after 1951. In addition, he interviewed other people who had been prisoners of regimes that utilized various brainwashing and mind control techniques.

As with many influence techniques, these may be used to both positive and negative ends. Each essay will be focused on one element of the “BITE” framework, that consists of Behavior control, information control, thought control and emotional control. This first essay is concerned with Behavioral control, based on Steven Hassan’s list, I will outline how the various elements are utilized by destructive women in order to influence and control the people in their life. Continue reading

Gendernomics: Finding Your Mission

The Sixteen Commandments of Poon is a great list from an Heartiste that has been a manosphere staple for many years now. Perhaps the most frequently cited commandment is number 3.

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority [1]

The fundamental challenge with this commandment however, is that it presumes that all men have a clear and defined mission in their head that they can make the primary target to aim for in their life. The reality is that many men are like objects in a vacuum, they remain inert until acted upon by an external force. They simply have no idea what their mission is, and some do not even know what having a mission entails. How can one put one’s mission before a woman if one lacks a mission and has a woman? Alternatively, how can one avoid making a woman one’s mission if one lacks a mission?

Some men are born with an innate sense of purpose and know what they desire from an early age, but many do not pay much attention to having a mission, and instead opt to be adrift for years and sometimes decades. In some sense, this can be partly blamed on a social order where men are no longer raised by men, and thus are no longer trained by men to develop that sense of purpose. I’ve known many men who despite great talents and abilities do not live up to their potential.

A few years in my early twenties were spent in such drift, aimless, and without much purpose. However, various life experiences served to radically upend this view of the world. It appears that a man who finds himself adrift may only be awoken from his slumber by significant adversity and challenge. Frequently, the longer he has been in such a slumber, the greater the challenge he must face in order to prove himself worthy of progression. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Vagina Valuations

In my recently released Gendernomics book, I go through a subject that I themed relationship cost accounting, that utilizes some common methods to establish the opportunity and sunk costs of a man entering a relationship. A correlate to this is what I theme “vagina valuation” that draw on some classic finance and accounting methodologies to define a value for a woman. This was inspired by the classic quote:

“No matter how hot she is, someone out there is sick of dealing with her shit”

Which can be viewed as a woman writing checks her vagina cannot cash, either immediately or over time. Most men who have experience from a relationship or two, can testify that women are somewhat like a new car, at first just getting inside it is existing and exhilarating but over time as the sense of new fades, so does the emotions experienced. As with other drugs, one must seek out steadily increasing levels of experience in order to gain the same emotional impact. However, in many cases, performance declines as the relationship matures, as excitement is replaced by maneuvering from the woman to take control.  The move for control is in many ways a typical move women makes when a relationship reaches a certain stage, this stage is very relative and depends among other things on her age, her own sexual market value, the man’s sexual market value and cultural/social context, however it always happens unless the relationship self-destructs very early on.

To some extent this is driven by what appears to be an inherent female tendency to fall for a man who embodies certain qualities and traits, only to proceed to eradicate those traits in him, if he permits her to, should he fight back, it predictably causes the woman to increase her less than ideal behaviors. This represents a situation wherein the value the man places on the woman is tested by the woman’s behavior over time. However, this also functions to display to the man the woman’s true self.

Both women and men misrepresent themselves somewhat during initial courtship, however, women to a larger extent engage in bait and switch behavior, thus this situation represents a true test of her idealized self and her true self. The inherent tendency for misrepresentation and machiavellianism in women, lead to valuation metrics being somewhat questionable. In the process referred to as “Due Diligence” during a merger, acquisition or joint venture, the goal is to work through massive amounts of data, rearranging and reviewing it in order to identify discrepancies. This is done in order to establish a “true and fair” view that one can then analyze. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: The Subterfuge of Female Madness

As part of an on going series, I’ve covered a lot of topics related to female madness. I wrote about women with narcissism, borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, common methods they employ and their prevalence in the world. Recently I also wrote a post in a compare and contrast fashion between the behaviors of a normal woman when chasing an alpha and a crazy woman chasing a victim, in a post I themed “Normal Vs. Crazy“.

With in excess of 10.000 words of content dedicated to the topic, I had somewhat decided to put it away for now, until a very interesting week happened. The Red Pill reddit saw a man lamenting having gotten a 40 year old single-mom pregnant, twitter blew up over various forms of female subterfuge, and thus, I found myself with more topics to cover.

Subterfuge is defined as “deception by artifice or stratagem in order to conceal, escape, or evade” [1] and is a commonly used tool by women in general, but by women with mental issues in particular. These women have many things that they seek to conceal, and tactics to effectively do so. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Of AWALT and Snowflakes

snowflakeNot all women are like that” is a statement that most of us get in response when we present certain red pill ideas to men or women who are firmly anchored within the social narrative of relationships. Usually this is presented as a response when pointing out typical female behaviors such as branch swinging, solipsism, or hypergamy that have a tendency to cast females in somewhat of a negative light compared to their permanent state on the pedestal within the narrative.

This reaction is understandable as it challenges many deeply ingrained super-ego rules that we have internalized, in addition to many men having significant ego investment in their sexual strategy. Often the challenge has its roots in “I know a woman who is not like that” or “My mother is not like that“, which assumes that every woman manifests the same traits and behaviors to the exact same degree throughout her life.

In this essay I will argue that AWALT is more similar to a diagnostic construct in the field of psychology than it is to a law of nature in the hard sciences. Psychological diagnostic constructs are lists of traits and behaviors that manifest within this construct. Narcissistic personality disorder includes: Grandiosity, power fantasies, self-perception of being unique, needing admiration, sense of entitlement, interpersonal exploitation, unwillingness to empathize with others, intensely envious of others and a pompous demeanor. In order to receive the diagnosis one must manifest traits beyond a given threshold, for instance 5 out of 9.

Depending on situation, one can also manifest these traits in varying frequencies and intensity that changes with context and over time. Thus a person may be diagnosed one time, and not diagnosed the next time.

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Red Pill Logic: Future of a Blue Pill Illusion

optical-illusions-pointillismI was recently involved in a discussion with a few blue pill acquaintances, that highlighted some of the clear distinctions between a blue pill and a red pill framework. While the red pill can on occasion step into the domain of extremist cynicism, the blue pill in many ways depart from reality in profound ways. This lead me to consult “Future of an Illusion by Sigmund Freud, that deals with the illusions that humanity accept in order to avoid seeing reality.

One of the definitions for “illusion” by Merriam-Webster is:

perception of something objectively existing in such a way as to cause misinterpretation of its actual nature (2) :  hallucination”  [1]

The red pill metaphor that we utilize to illustrate a person’s awakening from the hallucination, aims to draw a distinction between the framework for interpreting reality that most men in the Western World are educated in throughout their childhood as part of socialization and the true nature of reality. In this manner, the term “Red Pill” is often co-opted by other groups, for instance the recent use of the term to signify a person’s awakening to the various narratives within our society that shape our perception of reality. A person has been “red pilled” when they start to question and reject the narrative that seeks to influence and control their behavior. Continue reading