Gendernomics: Finding Your Mission

The Sixteen Commandments of Poon is a great list from an Heartiste that has been a manosphere staple for many years now. Perhaps the most frequently cited commandment is number 3.

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority [1]

The fundamental challenge with this commandment however, is that it presumes that all men have a clear and defined mission in their head that they can make the primary target to aim for in their life. The reality is that many men are like objects in a vacuum, they remain inert until acted upon by an external force. They simply have no idea what their mission is, and some do not even know what having a mission entails. How can one put one’s mission before a woman if one lacks a mission and has a woman? Alternatively, how can one avoid making a woman one’s mission if one lacks a mission?

Some men are born with an innate sense of purpose and know what they desire from an early age, but many do not pay much attention to having a mission, and instead opt to be adrift for years and sometimes decades. In some sense, this can be partly blamed on a social order where men are no longer raised by men, and thus are no longer trained by men to develop that sense of purpose. I’ve known many men who despite great talents and abilities do not live up to their potential.

A few years in my early twenties were spent in such drift, aimless, and without much purpose. However, various life experiences served to radically upend this view of the world. It appears that a man who finds himself adrift may only be awoken from his slumber by significant adversity and challenge. Frequently, the longer he has been in such a slumber, the greater the challenge he must face in order to prove himself worthy of progression. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: The Subterfuge of Female Madness

As part of an on going series, I’ve covered a lot of topics related to female madness. I wrote about women with narcissism, borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, common methods they employ and their prevalence in the world. Recently I also wrote a post in a compare and contrast fashion between the behaviors of a normal woman when chasing an alpha and a crazy woman chasing a victim, in a post I themed “Normal Vs. Crazy“.

With in excess of 10.000 words of content dedicated to the topic, I had somewhat decided to put it away for now, until a very interesting week happened. The Red Pill reddit saw a man lamenting having gotten a 40 year old single-mom pregnant, twitter blew up over various forms of female subterfuge, and thus, I found myself with more topics to cover.

Subterfuge is defined as “deception by artifice or stratagem in order to conceal, escape, or evade” [1] and is a commonly used tool by women in general, but by women with mental issues in particular. These women have many things that they seek to conceal, and tactics to effectively do so. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Female Bubble

tulip-maniaOpportunity costs and sunk costs have been one of the topics that I have returned to quite a few times in various essays, as I consider them central to male issues within the sexual market place. Both of these metrics exist to judge whether an allocation of resources is sound or unsound. Opportunity costs are the costs of the best opportunity foregone, exemplified by getting married, where the opportunity costs are alternative mating with one or multiple other women. The sunk costs represent the time and other resources a man has invested into a relationship with a woman, and the resources that would be loss should the man decide not to pursue a relationship with that women any longer.

I credit my twitter feed with inspiring many of my essays, and this week is no different. Last week Illimitableman tweeted the following nugget of reasoning:

If a man earns $500 an hour and you want 5 hours alpha attention to be fucked, you’re saying your pussy is worth $2500. Overpriced!” @Illimitableman

This got me thinking along the lines of my “Hookers vs Dating” calculations in an earlier post on marginal utility. It is without a doubt that in the world of constant social media validation and where women are raised to view themselves as Princesses that women develop somewhat of a tendency to value themselves very highly. This is a natural consequence of being told that your product is the best in the world and worthy of royalty. Furthermore, having this over valuation validated by a range of thirsty men from the age of 15 does not in any way encourage a sober valuation. One must keep in mind that hype and marketing can drive a low quality or even useless product to immense heights for a time, examples of this includes such fad products as the pet rock and the Dutch tulip craze.  This is one of the value theory observations that the price of a product frequently does not reflect the underlying costs of building this product.

As an example one could argue that the price of an iPhone should be:

A) The price someone is willing to pay for it in an open market.

B) Reflect the cost of building it.

These will obviously be two entirely different prices. In the Gendernomics sense, the former reflects how the sexual market operates, whereas the latter is quite inconsequential. It does not matter if a man invests massively in himself if he does so in a manner that is not market oriented. Thus, the price the woman sets for her sexual companionship reflects that of the market in which she operates, how high a price will the market accept? Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: An Essay on Female Understanding

female-mindAbout 10 years ago the axiom “The First Rule of the Red Pill is do not talk about the Red pill” was not really common, so I decided to discuss the various tactics I had utilized on women with them, I repeated this endeavor a few times, not out of the need to be honest, but as a form of research into how that woman had perceived the course of events that lead up the situation that we found ourselves in.

The reaction varied somewhat from woman to woman, one of my favorites was a woman who spent half our first date talking about how game was bullshit, while falling for many of those same gambits. Ever a curious man, I started picking at her assertions and digging into why she thought that game would never work. She became a bit flustered as she attempted to explain her reasoning, and finally she said “They are planning what should be spontaneous and natural. It’s nerdy!”. This was a very interesting observation that I realized years later plays into solipsism, hypergamy and especially “just be yourself“. This is because “Just be yourself” is a tactic to get a man to act in a manner that comes natural to him, something which makes telling an alpha from a beta a much simpler and less risky exercise for women.

One must consider that determining alpha or beta, is a fundamental and very important skill to learn for a female to be able to optimize hypergamy. There is an inherent risk that if a woman eliminates too many alphas, or permit too many betas to enter, she will fail. A woman who does not do a good job at separating the two will tend to either get too few mating opportunities, or she mates too much with men of too low quality, thus the result is an error of optimization.

A second woman talked at length about how the experiences with me were new to her, and questioned why she had reacted to- and perceived my actions in the light that she did. In somewhat of a case of youthful naiveté, I took it upon myself to explain the various gambits and their purpose to her. She listened intently as I explained the role of opinion openers, “chick crack” in the form of games such as “The Cube“, bouncing a woman to a second and third location rapidly to give the impression of 3 dates taking place rather than one, finally the disarming of “anti-slut defense” and Last minute resistance.

After I stopped speaking, we sat there quietly for some time as she processed the information that I had conveyed as if I was lecturing a student, and responded “No, it wasn’t any of those things, it was that you were confident“. This is an example of how woman rationalize their decisions post-hoc, often down to one salient quality, giving them an excuse or a narrative for why they did “the right thing” and cannot be held accountable for their actions. A woman admitting that game works, means admitting that the truths that serve as its foundation are also true. All women are not unique snowflakes as their solipsism tells them. They have virtually no control over what attracts them.

These two experiences, and a few more lead to me concluding that discussing game, and subsequently the game with women is an experience in futility, as it destroys the illusion that every woman wants to maintain; that they are special snowflakes. No woman inherently wants to admit that game works, because game is a singular methodology that has a high general applicability. If the red pill and game works, everything a woman thinks about herself is untrue,  one can easily contrast this with blue pill game, which is centered around ensuring the female of her special nature. Continue reading

Gendernomics: Beta Males and Shorted Circuits

feedbackI was in a discussion on alpha and beta the other day, and to some extent dominance (an alpha trait) is somewhat of a circular trait, if you are dominant, it leads to becoming more dominant, and if you are not dominant it leads to you becoming more submissive. This is a concept called a feedback system, often simplified to Input – Process – Output – Analysis, wherein the results of the system affects future runs of that system. Being alpha or beta is one of those things that is greatly affected by both feedback systems and synergy both during initial stages and subsequent runs of the program.

An alpha male who starts in the state of alpha, will experience positive effects from this mindset and as a result he will double-down on the behavior that has worked for him before. This is quite typical of humans, we tend to repeat behaviors where the outcomes have historically been satisfactory, this is no different than  how the pigeons in BF Skinner’s experiment would peck the button that dispensed food.

If I were to simplify, the input to the system is Alpha Male Behavior, the Process is Game, and the Output is sexual success. The analysis after the event allows the man to review and improve on his behavior in order to better himself for future engagements. This means that should the alpha hit a slump, he can review and adjust to break that slump and thus get back on track.

However, the interesting aspect is what keeps beta men acting out behavior schema that are unsuccessful? The Beta in the same system, the input is Beta Male Behavior, the process is adoption of the feminine imperative, the output is a lack of sexual success. However, one would think that over time a failure of the system to produce the desired result would lead to an alteration of the system. Continue reading

Gendernomics: The Gap Analysis

gap-analysisThis community to which many of us belong, called the manosphere is in many ways the largest self-improvement community on earth. When I first encountered it in the early 2000s, it was known as the seduction community and was uniquely focused on one area of achievement, namely learning the skills to improve relationships with women. When I returned late 2015, I was intrigued to see that it had changed from a community that had a singular focus, to a community that had embraced a much wider mission. Part of the reason why I decided to leave many years ago, was that the community was solely focused on being perceived as a high value male, as opposed to becoming a high value male. While these may appear to be similar, the former is akin to a woman adopting all the modern tricks of the trade to take herself from a 4 to a 7, as opposed to actually putting in the work to be a true seven.

As with most in the sphere, I tend to engage in constant self-improvement with varying intensities, and I’ve found gap analysis to be a very useful tool for both man design and lifestyle design. A gap analysis is a tool that is utilized in business, where the present state is established in detail, for instance based on market share, organizational capabilities or overall strategy. One then identifies the desired future state, so that it is possible to identify the gap between present and desired state, so that action can be taken to reach the desired future state.

Any self-improvement journey starts with a simple “From A to B” however many make detours when enjoying these travels, some embrace the process, others the goal. One can apply a gap analysis to most aspects so long as they can be quantified reasonably well. As management guru Peter Drucker once said “What gets measured gets managed“, I’ve assisted quite a few businesses and men in improvement efforts throughout the years and what is a virtually eternal truth is that the measuring systems are not in place to ensure progress towards the desired end-state and thus the results suffer. Continue reading

Red Pill Logic: Briffault’s law, Bateman and Peak Hypergamy

briffaultI read a couple of rational male posts recently that were concerned with Open Hypergamy and Peak Hypergamy, as I was reading them, it became clear that this is a function of what is encapsulated in a quote from my previous article “A Woman’s Resume“: “Men spend their entire lives fighting to get credit for their virtuous behavior, women spend theirs fighting to avoid punishment for their depraved behaviors.

Hypergamy has historically been controlled through men holding and being able to exercise overt power, often granted by social factors such as religion and tradition. This power would directly control hypergamy through ensuring that women could not engage in their strategy of “Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks” without significant risk and major consequences. The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne, is a great example of how a woman branded an adulteress, is relegated to a life in poverty and shame as a single mother in a Puritan community in the 1600s. The narrative of the book aside, this exemplifies the risk-reward balance between Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks. The cost of attaining or attempting to attain high quality genetics from a man with whom she will be unable to secure a long-term relationship is the risk that she will be found out, and thus sacrifice her opportunity to secure beta bucks.

A female victory in the sexual market place is attained through being able to secure both of the end states sought, successful attainment of high quality genetics, and successful attainment of long-term provision. Traditionally, both would be sough from the same man, though the end result of this would be a case of settling in both cases. The mathematics here is simple, if one uses the percentages given by the Pareto Principle, that only 20% of men have the potential alpha genetics, then it follows that either a state of polygamy or a state of reproductive laissez-faire would be required in order for women to secure access to these genetics. Continue reading